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I have recieved some requests to instruct on how to use this blog. First, I encourage you to join as a "Follower". Click on "follow" in the right side panel and add the information that is prompted. This will prompt an email to you when I add new posts.
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There is a comment link just below all of the posts. I encourage you to feel free to comment or initiate conversation. I will appreciate all of your wisdom and support if you find a topic close to your heart.

So far...I thank you for your questions and I hope you have an uplifting experience every time you visit Moms On The Mend.

God Bless. MOTM

About Me

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Hello. I am really excited about this new adventure. The world can be a difficult place at times. Although it is pretty great to know that we all struggle and that we are not alone on our journey. I am hoping that this blog can be a help and inspiration to all the women out there who have. well, made some decisions in our lives that may have not turned out the way we expected. I hope to share my experience and the miracles that have taken place in my life that have and are turning my life around. I woke up one night with "Moms On The Mend" on my heart. I am not sure where this will go but, I have a burning desire to see hearts mended in those women who may have experienced or may be experiencing life's most difficult challenges. Ultimately, to obtain the ability to rise above and overcome!! Join us and find a fresh renewal in the life our heavenly Father intends for you!! Today is your day of blessing and healing. This is a day for rejoicing and claiming FREEDOM and a FEARLESS future.

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Summer Time Fun

I have been slacking on new posts. Having a blast with the kids and I will have a lot of great stories and inspiration to write about after this summer revival. Hallelujah!!!! See you soon. MOTM

Thursday, March 26, 2009


Have you ever been betrayed? One day or another you will be betrayed or maybe you will betray. Betrayal is painful....and usually occurs by someone you were supposed to be able to trust. Betrayal stems back into biblical times when Jesus was betrayed by Judas. When Judas realized that Jesus' kingdom was "spiritual" and not based on physical or political security Judas betrayed Jesus. Judas believed he would be a man of status standing by Christ's kingdom. When he became aware of this truth Judas was unable to process the value of trusting Jesus. Judas believed political status and wealth was the security he needed. Judas betrayed Jesus for 30 silver coins. Life with Jesus is eternal. 30 silver coins can be spent in one day. The relationship that Christ had put his time into with Judas was thrown away because of greed. A.... "What is in it for me?" attitude. Trust is built and earned and can be torn down instantly. Mathew 26:14 "What are you willing to give me if I turn Him over to you?" States Judas. A moment of greed can cause a betrayal.
Do not be surprised if these people and situations are wiped from your life. "I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. he cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit He prunes so that it can be even more fruitful." John 15:1-2

Betrayal stays with both the individual betrayed and the one who has betrayed forever. The only remedy for this pain is forgiveness. This does not mean you need to continue to associate. You are setting yourself free in the grace of the gifts that Jesus has died for.

The one Betrayed: may feel as though they can not trust, is afraid to allow people into your life, goes into a defense mode, and demands they will never let anyone in who could ever hurt them again.

The Betrayer: may feel successful, proud of their destruction and lies, maybe they are in denial of their own truth in their own lives so they may not be aware of their betrayal (This may sound strange and unforgivable but in the word it says "Forgive them for they know not what they do."), but for sure they have destroyed a relationship that it is unlikely to ever repair.

The only freedom for the betrayed or the betrayer is truth, forgiveness, and let go and let God. Remember it as a learning experience and apply it to your life as wisdom.  A gift.

Most likely, if you have been betrayed, do not hold your breath that the betrayer will ever admit they have wronged you; pray!  It is easier for these individuals who have a pattern of betrayal in their lives to justify it. I guess it is easier than looking themselves in the mirror and admitting to themselves they need to change but this is not our job to figure it out.  God already knows the beginning and the end.  You can only really succeed in true change with the grace of God in your life. You can forgive these people in your life through God's grace so you can move on whether they ever apologize or not. Then leave the betrayal at the cross with the baggage that has weighed your mind down and the baggage that has kept you from living the beautiful life you have been given. Enjoy your knew freedom and do not turn around and pick up the past ever again. Let go! Enjoy all the new and fresh experiences you are about to endure. All that you love in your life will be there one way or another. When you think you have lost everything you just gained more than what you could have ever imagined. Have a wonderful day!! God bless. MOTM
Third Day-Revelation...Click to view....use back arrow to come back to us. :)

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

A Cleansing Giggle...

Enjoy a good laugh.. I hope you can find a giggle in your heart with these videos. :)

I have to laugh because they are all to close to home for me. I have two draws and a full suitcase in this home that my sweetheart has collected of "Hotel Soap". We hand them out as treasures when the little ones visit. There is something about a small bar of soap..... The best is when I ventured out into the garage..... scary place in this home...... to attempt to find .... something. I was moving things around and I had moved a suitcase that was piled on the something I was looking for. Well,... it rattled.... do I dare open it for Hmmm maybe its a critter inside. I leaned back and gently, courageously, and as far a way as possible until my arms were stretched out straight I unzipped the case. OH MY!!!!! I just won a lifetime supply of "Hotel Soap". I only have one theory...I think they are is the only thing that I can figure.... they must stick to the hands of my sweetheart when he is on the road and therefore finding their way to our home...IN BULK!!! We give them as gifts.... like I said the little ones find something intriguing about a "small..itsy...bitsy...chicklet bars of soap." :) Have a wonderful day! Next time you wash your hands have a cleansing giggle it refreshes the heart.

Remember .... use your back arrow after you view any video....come back to us!!! We do not want to lose you in cyber space :) Enjoy......

Monday, March 16, 2009

Add Fun & Tasty Recipes Here.....

We all have our favorite dish...lets share them!!! Add your recipe in the comment box below and spice up your own weekly meals with something new and tasty.....Have fun :) MOTM

Wake Up With A Wiggle in Your Walk

A great way to start your morning...turn up your speakers and get your cardio workout!!!

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Being Still

You know sometimes we need to do nothing. In the word it says "Be still". Does your mind ever begin to race from thought to thought until you feel completely overwhelmed? All of a sudden all of your mountains appear so intense that you feel like there is no way out. God has a plan. He says "Be still and know that I am God." We are not able to control everything and everyone around you. When life starts falling apart our first inclination is to start grabbing for answers.....Why? Why? Why? The answers do not come fast enough so we start grabbing onto everything around us for dear life for fear of losing it. Our insight becomes unclear and our thoughts become our own enemy as they repeat over and over in your mind. Then ultimately we begin to lose ourselves in the deep painful anguish of the life we have known and confusion of the new life you are being offered. Then one day everything you knew of is gone...... You know deep inside you are in a better place although you realize you do not even know who you are after your loss. Your life revolved around the chaos and the disrupted structure. Now it is silent and you have to face yourself and you can no longer hide behind the pretty picture you painted for so long to disguise your painful circumstances. God says to you "Be still...Rest..." and you do not know how..... You cry yourself to sleep every night and you fight inside to understand..Why? God...if you love me...why? Why my babies? God says "Be still...." Silence for months. You are feel like God does not hear your cries. You question if He exists. You wonder if you will ever have purpose again. Silence......... Be still....... and know that I am God! Faith! Believe! Months after months, day after day, hour after hour, minute after minute, and one day the breaking point comes and you can get out of bed and get dressed. "Be still and know that I am God." He is your healer your redeemer and He will never abandon you. When the thoughts get crazy and the mountains look too high to climb...sit back, close your eyes, and instead of reacting... "do nothing". Moments later wisdom and clarity will slowly appear and your thoughts calm. He is a God of "Grace" not "dis grace".

Keep your eyes on Him and your answers will come...... Really!! they do come.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Scripture For The Day

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted; He saves those crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Time Out...Refresh....

Refresh...Renew...and Recieve....

Find your "Pocket Full Sunshine"..... Turn your speakers up and release......

The Outreach Spreads...Where two or more are gathered together....

Please take a moment to read a new blog I have been introduced to. A woman that I have recently met is reaching out in hopes to help women stand tall and claim their life back. She is a survivor and I have great respect for her boldness to speak up about her story. Join us to help make a difference.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Is He REALLY Capable? Domestic Violence-Related Homicide

What happens when your life is being threatened and the community around you thinks that a "nice guy" is not capable of actually physically or emotionally harming someone? What happens when all of the signs are there....preventable signs....and no one listens? Unfortunately, this is happening more and more. Innocent individuals lives are taken when no one believes "He IS capable!".
Domestic Violence is taken too lightly. Individuals fear to get involved or immediately assume you have done something to deserve what is happening to you. Everyone makes a poor choice in your life at sometime although it is very scary to know one poor poor judgement in someones character....could be your last. It will change your life forever.
I heard comments in the courtroom like..."Its Friday attorneys... make it quick!" To be standing before a judge, asking for help, fearing for your life..., and hearing a comment like this is devastating. You feel a rush of fear even worse than you felt on the street. You begin to realize that you are not taken seriously and you begin to live only to survive. You feel like there is no one to protect you. I have lost my ability to have a voice....a chance at a normal way of life......Your death comes in one way or another.....Your abuser believes he has won.......
I do not have the answers as to why the system is this way. I suppose that at some point someone created this model and now much compassion is lost. I pray for an answer daily....I pray that some day we all can help make a a life.
Reality is this....reality is painful....although what is painful can make you stronger!!!

Psalm 37
Do not fret because of evil men or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away.

Trust in the lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture, Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.

Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him and He will do this; He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.

Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret-it only leads to evil, For evil men will be cut off, but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land.

A little while, and the wicked will be no more; though you look for them, they will not be found. But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy peace.

The wicked plot against the righteous and gnash their teeth at them; but the Lord laughs at the wicked for He knows their day is coming.

The wicked draw the sword and bend the bow to bring down the poor and needy, to slay those whose ways are upright. But their swords pierce their own hearts, and their bows will be broken.........
(Life Application Study Bible, Tyndale House Publishing)

Innocent woman asks for help, has tapes, and is not now dead.

Domestic violence-related homicide is preventable – this is the best reason to invest resources to better understand
the complexities of domestic violence and the risks to victims preceding the fatalities so that more effective intervention and
prevention strategies can be implemented in more coordinated and cooperative ways across agencies. 2
3 Stewart, J (2005), Literature review on the establishment of domestic violence fatality review teams, Newsletter no 21, Australian Domestic & Family
Violence Clearinghouse, Sydney.
4 Thompson, R (2006), Evoking Social Change: How Domestic Violence Fatality Team Recommendations Can Make a Difference, Fatality Review

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Psalm 37:39-40

The salvation of the righteous comes from the Lord: he is their stronghold in time of trouble. The Lord helps them and delivers them; he delivers them from the wicked and saves them because they take refuge in him.

I dedicate this to my beautiful son. He introduced me to Switchfoot. It is amazing how the Lord does speak through babes....I love you baby :)

Friday, February 27, 2009

Something to think about......

Please ... sit back and realize this may be going on closer to home than you can imagine and your time and attention could save a life!!!!.... You can make a difference????

(After veiwing links click on your back arrow to return to MOTM. :)

U.S. Statistics... American Institute on Domestic Violence

The Human Factor
85-95% of all domestic violence victims are female.

Over 500,000 women are stalked by an intimate partner each year.

5.3 million women are abused each year.

1,232 women are killed each year by an intimate partner.

Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women.

Women are more likely to be attacked by someone they know rather than by a stranger.

National Cost of Domestic Violence
The health-related costs of rape, physical assault, stalking, and homicide by intimate partners exceed $5.8 billion each year.

Of this total, nearly $4.1 billion is for victims requiring direct medical and mental health care services.

Lost productivity and earnings due to intimate partner violence accounts for almost $1.8 billion each year.

Intimate partner violence victims lose nearly 8.0 million days of paid work each year - the equivalent of more than 32,000 full-time jobs and nearly 5.6 million days of household productivity.

PLEASE !!! your state statistics.....Go to this web site and click on your state!!!!

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

You Can Choose!!!

Before I get started on what is the latest and greatest on my heart....I would like to welcome the first two followers of MOTM. Thank you for your support and hang on to your seat for great things are to come. God is on the Move!!!... and we are all a part of His great works. Be Bold!!!

I am in the midst of reading, well, three books at one time.... Oh well, this is part of the wonderful personality God has created in me. I am a multi-tasker... hm? Ok..Ok..thats a nice way of describing my amazing ability to start something and move onto something else prior to finishing the first thing. Yep!!!.. that is ME. I am working on the fact that sometimes we are harder on ourselves than we let on. I am guilty of this in a BIG way. I am a perfectionist in many ways. This has not only created a lot of anxiety at times it has set expectations for myself that failure at times is eminent. People who know me and understand me ..... know what I am talking about. If you look at this quality in the proper prospective you look like a "super woman". People say things like...."Wow, how do you keep track of all that?" or "How do you be a Mom, go to school, work full time, keep a neat and tidy home, and manage all of it at the same time...Oh! and maintain a 3.8 GPA?" Well, Hm? I am here to tell you after a while your body goes into shut down. One day you wake up and wonder "Who am I?". All of a sudden all of these crazy endeavors define who you are and people look right past you do not even exist. You are a figure in everyone's life around you and you are just supposed to be there and do everything. In the mean time your not paying attention to all of the things that are slowly destroying you. You may have an abusive cycle in your life, a bad marriage, a dishonest spouse, someone who says terrible things to you, maybe someone threatens you, tearing you down to feel worthless, or a marriage of infidelity. It is amazing how all of these things or maybe one or two of these things can be taking place and we decide to "multi-task". I am here to tell have an identity....a personal identity. I am here to inform have a choice.....a choice to be who God created you to be. God created YOU and he has a purpose for your life.
The good news is.....God can introduce you to yourself! Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself "What is my favorite color?". Many women may be able to confidently answer such a simple question. Although, many women out there may be living in an unhealthy relationship. If you are continuously being manipulated and controlled you may not be able to answer such a simple question. You can not answer this question because someone has stolen something away from you. Someone has stolen your ability to live as God has created you. As time goes by you are not able to think freely and choose freely and you slowly begin to die inside until you mold into your current circumstances. Your focus becomes "survival" and if you have little ones you focus on keeping a structure...even if the structure is dysfunctional.
The first step is to identify your reality. If you can identify this and be honest with yourself you can start your journey. A journey into yourself. I could not have done this without my faith in the "Lord". I would like to encourage you to ask Jesus to come into your heart and help you on this journey. At times you may feel empty and its painful..... He will hold you up. We are in this together and you are never alone.

Matthew 18:19 Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there I am with them.

Friday, February 20, 2009

A New Day

Well, is a new day. Yesterdays obstacles are now over and have become a memory. What do we do with this memory? Do we analyze it to death or do we chalk it up as wellll.....I am still alive and breathing. There is always something... so how do we deal with something? I recently have decided to categorize the situations that come along in my life. I guess you could relate those categories to various storm scales or storm categories.

Category 1: Little bit of wind and precipitation... :)
Category 2: Little more wind and precipitation... :]
Category 3: Now I am getting a little frazzled.... :/
Category 4: Where do I hide???? : 0
Category 5: Now...I am in complete hibernation!!!!

How do we handle these levels of catastrophe in our lives?
How do we manage our hurts and broken hearts?
How do we maintain our integrity and dignity in the mean time?
How do we differentiate who really loves us and who we can trust? can we stay strong and know we have tomarrow? ( Turn your speakers on...and relax with that cup of coffee... :)

We are survivors....its in our making!!!!

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Ladies...Need a little Comedy?????

Revolve...For your teen-age daughters.

Unforgetable weekend for your daughter....learning about decision making...being respected....finding their place and purpose in life. Wow!!! would have loved to have this when we hit those teen-age years.
She will Thank you.....

Women Of Faith

Ladies if you want to have an incredible weekend with the girls....this is a weekend you will never forget....check it out!!!!

Be ready for a weekend of laughing...crying...soul over all life changing experience.